One of the highlights from recent call in shows (Reality Check Tuesday segment) involved a woman who had ended an eight year relationship but had stayed in the same home as her ex-spouse for over a year and a half.
As the conversation unfolded, I sensed that her fear of being alone and moving on independently was at the bottom of this.
I suggested that she begin the process of dialogue with her ex-husband to create an opening for a new living situation as well as dating and ultimately, a new relationship.
I hope you heard the call and noticed the shift as I did!
“You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don’t try.”
Beverly Sills
DON’T STAY STUCK – TAKE A RISK!
DO YOU GIVE AND GIVE AND NEVER RECEIVE?
HAVE YOU UNKNOWINGLY ABANDONED YOURSELF?
WHAT IS CODEPENDENCY?
After recent shows on codependency, many of you wrote asking for clarification.
So, let’s review.
The term was originally used to describe the spouses of alcoholics.
This was because they rescued and took care of others to the exclusion of their own needs and feelings.
Additionally, codependents usually cannot handle their own lives and are more comfortable managing yours and mine!
In the words of Maya Bailey, PhD, codependents “learn to care-take instead of care and to rescue instead of love.”
If you think you are codependent, get to work on learning who you really are, forming appropriate boundaries and learn to love yourself first!
GET MOTIVATED AND GET INTO ACTION! Read Wayne Dyer!
How could I finish off a November note to you without mentioning Thanksgiving?
Well, I saved it for last! Use this holiday to be grateful and make a gratitude list every time you begin that descent to the pity pot.
If you read the above and felt discouraged or had an “aha” moment, let the feelings come and then let them go.
For a shot of real “feeling good”, pick up a copy of THE POWER OF INTENTION by Wayne Dyer.
We have spoken a few times over the years and he is awesome and so is his work….dig in and enjoy and HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!